To Be A Friend
Linda Soller | Sep 01, 2025
What does it take for someone to be your friend? Have you ever considered the process you went through from the time you met someone until you thought of them as a friend? Have you ever wanted to be a friend to someone and asked yourself what would I need to do to be their friend? Maybe we don’t go through a formal process when we develop a friendship, but if we are honest with ourselves there is a process of sorts. Friendship takes time and can continue to grow. Perhaps you want there to be lots of shared interests, or comparable experiences, or maybe common hopes and dreams before a person can be your friend. Do you need total trust? Do you want laughter or a sense of security? Can you have many friends with each offering a different contribution to your relationship? So many questions, that you may never consciously ask yourself, but when you get the answers, you’ll know you have a true friend.
While a friend can take on many different characteristics, we all need friends. Friends are a connection to the bigger world around us. Friends are chosen. Friends choose you. They aren’t connected by birth, which neither of you controlled. Although family members can be great friends. There is something special about a friend. I think that’s one thing so unique about Jesus. He chose us, we chose Him, and in that relationship, we not only found our Lord we found a friend. I think that’s wonderful for most of us and difficult for others. Some may find it hard to consider prayer as a conversation with a friend, but for me that’s exactly what it feels like. You can be yourself when talking to a friend, and Jesus still loves you despite your shortcomings. With a friend you can feel secure and loved, and Jesus watches over you all the time. There is something true and honest about a good friendship. When you don’t have it, you miss it. I don’t know the answer but will ask the question. Have you allowed Jesus to be a friend to you?
Be strong in the Lord and be kind!
Linda
