First Baptist Church of Herndon

Where to Start

Linda Soller | Mar 15, 2021

Recently in our adult Bible study we talked about how confusing the crucifixion might be to a non- Christian. If we are honest it confuses many Christians. Why would God allow Jesus to die in such a horrible way? As we discussed further, with the variety of experience and knowledge in the group, we were able to come to some conclusions about the significance of God’s actions and the impact of a crucifixion as opposed to other less horrible, humiliating, and scandalous methods. But we didn’t really reach a conclusion about the best way to explain it to others. What we did discuss was where to start. We start by recognizing the confusion. We start by accepting that something we understand through our faith can seem so foolish to someone else.  

Since then, I have given more thought to how we approach many important conversations. When there is a substantial disagreement on a topic, or gap in understanding, where do you start? I have come to the same conclusion as we did in Bible study. You need to start by recognizing that most people have what they consider to be a valid reason for how they feel and/or believe. That is not to say you agree with them or buy into their reasoning, but you can accept that they are coming at the topic from a personal point of view. Sometimes we think it is easier to shout our opinion in hopes of drowning out a different opinion. If you state your point of view with enough confidence, enough volume, and maybe a “don’t get in my way” stance, you won’t have to discuss the finer points of the matter or defend your opinion. But we should be weary of avoiding a conversation just to kick a potential conflict down the road. At some point the matter will come up again. By then emotions may be running even higher. Maybe instead of focusing on who wins, or comes away with the short-term power, we need to think of where to start.

Have a great week! :o)